What Do You Expect?

1 April 2016

The higher a couple’s expectations of marriage, the more likely the union is doomed to failure, according to a recent study.

When couples have low expectations they are easily reached – and they are happier than couples who have higher expectations.

The psychologist in charge of the research, Dr James McNulty, advises newlyweds to ‘realise their strengths and weaknesses and calibrate their standards accordingly’, explaining that problems occur when couples experience ‘a mismatch between what they demand and what they can actually attain’.

Since the research was published, some media commentators have encouraged us to love the one we’re wedded to – not the tidier, healthier, cleverer, more committed person you hope marriage might make them.

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