Insight into mental issues at school

The group of young people we’ve been working with who won top prize in a local social action competition have published their project report – and given us an insight into the plight of children at school who suffer mental health issues.

The Minds Alrite team, taking part in an UpRising leadership programme, aimed to:

  • Reduce stigma
  • Increase awareness
  • Improve signposting.

The UpRising report, superbly illustrated by one of the team, focuses on their experience at one local school.

“The report makes fascinating reading and will be an eye-opener for local schools looking to find innovative ways of tackling mental health issues among students and helping them to find coping strategies,” says Relate Bedfordshire and Luton CEO Angela Foll.

“We’ve been impressed by how effective the team has been – going into schools as an older brother or sister might, talking about their own experiences of mental health issues, and readily engaging with other young people who are just a few years younger.”

The report is here:

Minds Alrite Final Report



Demand for help with relationships soars by 26%

Local demand for help with relationships has grown by 26% in just one year, says Relate Bedfordshire and Luton in their 2014-15 annual report.

The local Relate team have delivered 26% more hours of services compared with the previous year – and more than half of that time (57%) has been spent supporting children and young people.

CEO Angela Foll says: “Good quality relationships remain key to our wellbeing and happiness, even as the world around us changes rapidly. In fact, strong relationships are our best asset when coping with the challenges that modern life throws at us.

“At Relate Bedfordshire and Luton we help those who are single or in a relationship, straight or gay, young or old. Whatever the circumstances, our whole team are dedicated to helping clients get the most out of their relationships, no matter how big or small the issue.” (more…)

Empty Nest – by Relate’s Sue Reed

The new academic year begins and fresh faced young people are preparing to start out at university.  For many this will be an exciting new venture, a chance to be independent and build a new network of friends.  It may be daunting, managing money, shopping and cooking can be a challenge and that’s before they take on the academic challenges.

Parents can also find this new stage tricky too. Packing the car with the clothes, music, books and precious objects can be a wrench even when parents have looked forward to this time.  Watching fledglings leaving the nest can bring a tear to the eye of the most stoic parent.  This life stage has been called “the empty nest” period and parents need to adjust to the changes. (more…)

She’s gone up the wall


Heavens! Normally she’s such a balanced, quite reserved, clinical supervisor skilled at listening.

But of late, Diane Whitmore has been going up the wall.

Diane, counselling supervisor at Relate Bedfordshire and Luton, has been learning the tricks of scaling a wall courtesy of young people at the TOKKO youth space, Luton – where the Relate team provide counselling services. (more…)

Tips on how to ‘talk with your teen’

We’re supporting World Suicide Prevention Day this week (September 10) by offering tips on how to talk with your teenagers.

The annual awareness-raising day is organised by International Association for Suicide Prevention and the World Health Organisation.

This year’s theme is about understanding the impact that reaching out to people at risk can have in preventing suicide, and ultimately saving lives.

More than 800,000 people take their lives each year across the world. In the UK and Republic of Ireland, more than 6,000 people die by suicide a year – an average of 18 a day. (more…)

Fine art of a press release

Obviously, the secret of success in a press release is to get so many angles into your story that every media channel imaginable finds one to suit their target audience.

Take Relate’s release this week of its comprehensive survey into The Way We Are Now

We’ll leave you to guess which type of media outlets favoured which angle, but their wide choice included:

  • Honesty and commitment are valued the most in a relationship
  • A certain percentage of us haven’t had sex for a month
  • Women over 60 have the best quality friendships
  • Relationships involving young children come under huge pressure
  • A certain percentage of us have cheated on our partner
  • Couples keep their debts secret from one another
  • Money worries are the biggest strain on relationships.



What’s the No 1 problem when a relationship goes wrong?

What do you think is the Number One problem in a failing relationship?

According to a prominent psychotherapist making the headlines in New York, the Number One issue is communicating effectively.

For example, you need to know how to argue with your partner during a domestic while not threatening to leave the relationship.

You also need to recognise that your partner’s annoying behaviours, which you feel are intolerable, have probably always been part of the mix.

Other problems couples commonly face, she says, include:

  • Not having fun together
  • Being too busy
  • Being too insensitive
  • Being too sensitive.

Anything sound familiar?



You could be sitting on a fortune!

Consultant auctioneer David Fletcher will be aboard when we hold a private viewing and auction at the auction rooms in the heart of Woburn on Thursday, October 15.

Our CEO Angela Foll has been learning the trade of an auctioneer so that she can put her new skills to the test at the event, hosted by Charles Ross Auctioneers & Valuers. All winning bids will go towards delivering more free counselling sessions for children and young people across the county. (more…)

Money worries are a top strain on relationships for people in the region

An annual study of more than 6,000 people in the UK shows that money worries are a top strain on relationships for 61% of people living in the East Midlands region.

Published today by charities Relate, Relationships Scotland and Marriage Care,  The Way We Are Now 2015  is one of the biggest studies of its kind. It provides a window into the nation’s relationships – from couple and family life to sex, friendships and how we feel about our colleagues and bosses. (more…)

Your invite to a special occasion

You’re invited to an event being run by Relate Bedfordshire and Luton at auction rooms in Woburn in October.

Earlier in the year CEO Angela Foll won a mini i-pad in a Bedfordshire Chamber of Commerce prize draw. Now she is looking to raise funds for Relate by auctioning it, along with other prizes donated by local traders.

Moreover, she’ll be the auctioneer herself – she is learning her new skills from local auctioneers and valuers, Charles Ross.

Money from Angela’s 10 auction lots at the private viewing will go towards delivering more free counselling sessions for children and young people across Bedfordshire and Luton… and she would welcome your support when the bidding starts at 6.30pm at The Old Town Hall auction rooms in the heart of Woburn on October 15. If you would like to make an evening of it, there are several quality restaurants nearby.

Tickets for a preview tour and the auction cost £15, plus an optional £10 donation on which, with your permission, we would claim gift aid. For a personal invite email: