You’ve decided to put an end to all the arguing, all the tension, all the indecision – and tell your partner: ‘It’s over.’
All you’ve got to do is actually do it!
It sounds straightforward enough. But it’s not always easy.
Maybe you’re worried about hurting your partner. Perhaps you know they don’t want to break up, and that doing so will leave them in a bad state. (more…)
Many of us will remember what it was like to listen to our parents arguing. The feelings of helplessness, panic and sadness. A desire to block it out or run away.
Yet it can be easy to forget this as a parent later in life. We can get so mixed up in arguments with our partner that we don’t see things from the perspective of our children – who may be going through something very similar to what we once felt.
It’s no secret that parental arguments can have a negative effect on children. The different ways in which this can occur, though, aren’t always as obvious. And it can be easy to fail to appreciate how long-lasting these effects can be – sometimes carrying on for years as children become adults themselves. (more…)
Arguments between children can be upsetting for a parent. You may worry about your relationship with your children – especially if the arguments have been going on regularly for a while. You may feel a responsibility to stop the arguing, or may be upset that the arguments are causing disharmony in your family.
While some arguing between children is common – and indeed, might be expected – what can make a difference is the regularity and intensity of arguments. If your children are constantly at odds, or arguments are becoming really aggressive, or even physical, this can create real problems. (more…)
We’re sometimes reluctant to talk about what it’s really like to bring a new baby into a family – apart from the acceptance that we’re likely to get a lot less sleep.
Expectations run high and anything that contradicts them can be difficult to process.
As a new parent, you’re letting go of one life and discovering another. This process can take time.
It’s a period of intense change for you, your partner, and your new baby. You learn together what that new ‘normal’ looks like but, meanwhile, it’s important not to judge yourself, nor your partner, if things feel uncomfortable. Be gentle with each other. (more…)
Most parents argue. But the way these disagreements affect children varies greatly, according to research commissioned by the BBC.
It’s not only the relationship between parent and child that affects children’s long-term development.
How parents get on with each other also plays a big role in a child’s wellbeing, with the potential to affect everything from mental health to academic success and future relationships. (more…)
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When you’re on the receiving end of blame it can be exhausting, exasperating and painful.
It can make you feel tiny: like nothing you do is good enough or ever will be. It can break down your sense of trust in your partner and replace it with a growing sense of resentment and anger.
And, if it persists for a long time, constant blame in a relationship can be a symptom of emotional abuse.
Why do we blame each other? (more…)
‘Micro-cheating’ – said to be a new buzzword – is all about little things you might think aren’t that naughty, but could turn out to be.
Is there such a thing – ‘cheating but only a bit’?
Yes, says Dr Martin Graff, professor of psychology at the University of South Wales, who wrote about this modern dating dilemma in an article for a psychology journal. (more…)
Forgiving your partner if they’ve done something to upset you can be one of the hardest things to do in a relationship.
When you’re feeling disappointed, angry or betrayed, the idea of forgiving someone can feel a little bit like giving in – as if, by letting go of your resentment, you’re allowing them to ‘get away with it’.
It can be more tempting to hang on to negative emotions – acting distant and frosty as a way of punishing the person who has upset you. (more…)
Arguments are common in all kinds of relationships. Some degree of conflict can even be healthy, as it means both people are expressing themselves, rather than keeping everything inside and letting emotions fester.
But if you’re arguing all the time, or simple disagreements end up in a hostile silence or screaming match, it can really start to take its toll – or even leave you wondering whether you’re all that compatible.
Learning ways to handle disagreements constructively is crucial in any relationship. (more…)