Posts Categorized: Relationships

Loneliness: how we feel about it

Loneliness can be a frightening prospect, and one that can cause us to act in irrational ways. Staying in an unfulfilling relationship because you’re frightened of being alone is a relatively common situation, and one that many people come to individual counselling with for help. It can be tricky to address because the fear of… Read more »

Take your time

You’ve probably read that January is notoriously the most popular month for divorce. Tensions over the holiday period – or the final straw in a relationship breakdown that’s been coming all year – may leave us emotionally drained: we don’t want another relationship, ever. For others, the stress of dumping someone, or being dumped, leaves… Read more »

Do unto others…

We wish you a happy Christmas. The Relate Bedfordshire and Luton counselling centres are closed from close of play on December 22 till January 2 2018. We do wish you well but know that for many people it can be a difficult time of year. Deciding who to spend Christmas with is often a major… Read more »

Do you ever feel unattractive?

Feeling you aren’t attractive enough to be with your partner can be demoralising and isolating. It can happen for various reasons. Your self-esteem may have taken a knock – and with it, your sense of how desirable you are. Perhaps it’s something that you’ve begun to feel after going through physical changes; after an injury,… Read more »

Christmas tensions trigger huge rise in New Year calls

We’re expecting a peak in calls in the New Year after relationship tensions come to a head over the Christmas holidays. In January 2017, we received more than double the number of calls from local people compared with an average month – the total uplift was 108%. That figure was four times the uplift in… Read more »

Help for YOU if you’re in debt

One in seven people in debt has hidden the problem from their partner. And, according to latest figures from the Money Advice Service, 15.8% of adults (aged 18+) in the Bedford borough area and 14% of adults in Central Bedfordshire have a debt problem – that’s 51,630 people. In Luton, 18% of adults are in… Read more »

When we’re our own worst enemies

Some couples set themselves on a route to relationship break-up – by repeating the same old bad habits time and again. Here are some of them: Not listening to what is being said Communication is the most important part of a relationship. By paying closer attention to how you’re communicating with your partner you can… Read more »

What you can do if your partner is drinking too much

Feeling your partner drinks too much can create tension and upset in your relationship. You may feel your partner is ‘being taken away from you’. Perhaps you resent the amount of time they spend out drinking – and feel they’re a completely different person when they’ve been drinking. Maybe you’re unsure how to broach the… Read more »