Posts Categorized: Relationships

Should we break up now? Or risk further heartache down the line?

Relate frequently responds to letters from people about their relationships – and a few are published on our national website to help others who may be going through similar experiences. We ensure letter-writers cannot be identified. Here’s one such letter from someone whose partner has asked him: ‘Should we remain in our relationship?’ He writes:… Read more »

Anyone for sex every day for a year?

The media frequently contact Relate for comments and advice. Sometimes the stories they impart are a touch sensational and the advice is added on as an afterthought. So, when you’re asked to comment on a piece headed ‘Sex every day for a year’ you start to question whether you should get involved. But when one… Read more »

Coping with the highs and lows of a rollercoaster relationship

When your relationship is an ‘emotional rollercoaster’, it tends to have lots of highs and lows – often in rapid succession. One day you’re arguing intensely, the next you’re feeling really happy and close. You may find it hard to predict what things are going to be like on any given day, or when they… Read more »

‘My partner isn’t committed to our relationship’

Feeling our partner has commitment issues can be stressful and isolating – and can make us doubt the future of our relationship. We may hope our partner will come round to the idea of a long-term relationship. We may believe, sometimes justifiably, that our partner wants to be committed to our relationship. But it never quite works… Read more »

Loneliness: how we feel about it

Loneliness can be a frightening prospect, and one that can cause us to act in irrational ways. Staying in an unfulfilling relationship because you’re frightened of being alone is a relatively common situation, and one that many people come to individual counselling with for help. It can be tricky to address because the fear of… Read more »

Take your time

You’ve probably read that January is notoriously the most popular month for divorce. Tensions over the holiday period – or the final straw in a relationship breakdown that’s been coming all year – may leave us emotionally drained: we don’t want another relationship, ever. For others, the stress of dumping someone, or being dumped, leaves… Read more »