Posts Categorized: Relationships

Quality of the relationship counts for most

“It’s not the piece of paper that’s important, it’s the quality of the relationship,” says Relate counsellor Barbara Bloomfield in an interview about living together, commitment and marriage. Around 80% of couples co-habit before getting married, but it’s not always seen as a precursor to marriage. A 2012 report suggests that 21% of people live… Read more »

Tell-tale signs of a toxic relationship

“If you’re afraid to tell your friends or family what’s happening in your relationship, it’s probably toxic.” “If your partner directs, advises, or orders you to not talk to friends and family members, it’s probably toxic.” Those are messages from one contributor to a chatroom discussion about tell-tale signs of a toxic relationship. When you’re… Read more »

That’s the point…

What’s the point of keeping up contact with someone who doesn’t recognise you? A survey says 42% of the public think there is no point in maintaining contact when someone reaches this stage of dementia. But family visits at this stage can stimulate feelings of happiness, comfort and security, says the Alzheimer’s Society. “Spending time… Read more »

D-Day for help with divorce

Today has been dubbed D-Day (with apologies to those with wartime memories). D-Day is the date in January when more divorces are expected to be filed than any other day of the year. Christmas has come and gone. You’ve given it one last chance. You didn’t want to spoil Christmas for the children. But after… Read more »

How to avoid family arguments this Christmas

Christmas can be wonderful opportunity to spend quality time with your family, but, as so many of us know, it can also come with a whole host of pressures and challenges. It’s no surprise really. The hothouse environment of having lots of contrasting personalities all together indoors for long periods at a time. All the… Read more »

Good communication better than pills?

In a week when we were told that talking therapies are just as effective as antidepressants, the comparative benefits of a new pill for low libido in women have also been brought into question. Popularly described as Viagra for women, Flibanserin is taken daily and aims to treat low desire, but has potential side-effects such… Read more »

How to stop arguments spinning out of control

Have you noticed that arguments with your partner often blow up before getting resolved? Do disagreements easily pass the point of no return? Do you sometimes both say things you’ll regret later before one of you storms out? Many couples bring this destructive pattern of conflict to counselling, and we’ve witnessed how hurt and exhausted… Read more »