#Covid has put immense pressure on our relationships, testing strength and resilience as a couple. So how do can we do Christmas well? Here are our 3 tips for couples: Make a rough plan together for your Christmas. Many disagreements can be avoided if you have similar expectations for the holiday – and you can… Read more »
Posts Categorized: Marriage
Rethinking Sex: A Journey with Steve & Jen
This series tells fictional stories using made-up names of the journey people experience through counselling. Drawn from our counsellors’ extensive experience every client’s story is unique; what remains the same is our desire to helping you with who you want to be. At the start When Steve & Jen came to sex therapy, they were… Read more »
Breaking Free: A Journey with Clare
This series tells fictional stories using made-up names of the journey people experience through counselling. Drawn from our counsellors’ extensive experience every client’s story is unique; what remains the same is our desire to helping you with who you want to be. At the start When Clare arrived for counselling she was in the middle… Read more »
Negotiating Difference
A lot has been written about why people fall in love. It’s the first question I ask couples that come to see me. Sometimes it’s simple: “We’re good friends and it felt right to move to the next stage”. For some it’s a physical attraction or finding someone they can talk to about anything. For… Read more »
Advice & Tips For Your Relationships During Coronavirus
Impact on relationships: The coronavirus outbreak is leading to big changes in the way we live our everyday lives. Our relationships will be hugely important for getting us through self-isolation, social distancing and other concerns may also place them under added pressure. Our counsellors have put together some tips for looking after your relationships with… Read more »
Are you having doubts?
Doubts about getting married are fairly common. You may be worrying that you and your partner aren’t compatible enough. Perhaps there are parts of your relationship that don’t work so well – and you think they could become more of a problem further down the line. Maybe you’ve got the feeling there could be someone… Read more »
Blame can be toxic
When you’re on the receiving end of blame it can be exhausting, exasperating and painful. It can make you feel tiny: like nothing you do is good enough or ever will be. It can break down your sense of trust in your partner and replace it with a growing sense of resentment and anger. And,… Read more »
Forgiveness: it’s the hardest thing to do
Forgiving your partner if they’ve done something to upset you can be one of the hardest things to do in a relationship. When you’re feeling disappointed, angry or betrayed, the idea of forgiving someone can feel a little bit like giving in – as if, by letting go of your resentment, you’re allowing them to… Read more »
How to argue less
Arguments are common in all kinds of relationships. Some degree of conflict can even be healthy, as it means both people are expressing themselves, rather than keeping everything inside and letting emotions fester. But if you’re arguing all the time, or simple disagreements end up in a hostile silence or screaming match, it can really… Read more »
When talking is tough
Talking things over together in a relationship can be tricky – particularly if you haven’t been talking properly for a while, or you feel hurt or angry with your partner. However, if you do feel able to give it a go, these tips may be useful: Keep things relaxed. Hearing the words ‘we need to talk’… Read more »