Posts Categorized: Marriage

Tools for Transformation: Dave’s Counselling Journey

When Dave rang our support team, he felt it was his last chance.  He moved in with his partner four years ago. They were both divorced with grown-up children from their previous marriages.  As with many couples in this situation, from the outside they looked like a perfect pair. They loved having family gatherings with… Read more »

Pandemic decreases self-esteem

Couple sitting together under dark clouds

Just over a quarter of people in the East Midlands report decrease in self-esteem compared with pre-pandemic levels. Just over a quarter (26%) of people living in the East Midlands say their self-esteem has decreased[i] compared with pre-pandemic levels. In contrast over a fifth (22%) say their self-esteem has increased[ii], which was also the same… Read more »

How to Set Healthy Boundaries

My boundaries diagram

One thing Covid-19 has massively altered in our societies is boundaries and personal space. Over a year of social distancing outside our own bubbles has embedded social boundaries we would never have imagined before. What are healthy boundaries? Here’s some advice from Relate Northants counsellor Sharon. Sharon on Healthy Boundaries Our preferences around personal space… Read more »

Bridging the Gap: A journey with Tom & Mary

bridging the gap

This series tells fictional stories of the counselling journey. Drawn from our counsellors’ extensive experience, this story recounts how a couple overcome communication weaknesses to build a stronger future together. Pandemic Pressures Tom & Mary had been together 4 years when lockdown began and had been living together for two years in Tom’s house. They… Read more »

3 #covid Christmas tips for couples

#Covid has put immense pressure on our relationships, testing strength and resilience as a couple. So how do can we do Christmas well? Here are our 3 tips for couples: Make a rough plan together for your Christmas. You can avoid many disagreements if you have similar expectations for the holiday – and you can… Read more »

Rethinking Sex: A Journey with Steve & Jen

This series tells fictional stories using made-up names of the journey people experience through counselling. Drawn from our counsellors’ extensive experience every client’s story is unique; what remains the same is our desire to helping you with who you want to be. At the start When Steve & Jen came to sex therapy, they were… Read more »

Negotiating Difference

A lot has been written about why people fall in love.  It’s the first question I ask couples that come to see me.  Sometimes it’s simple: “We’re good friends and it felt right to move to the next stage”.  For some it’s a physical attraction or finding someone they can talk to about anything. For… Read more »

Advice & Tips For Your Relationships During Coronavirus

The coronavirus outbreak is leading to big changes in the way we live our everyday lives. Our relationships will be hugely important for getting us through self-isolation, social distancing and other concerns may also place them under added pressure. Our counsellors have put together some tips for looking after your relationships with partners, family, children,… Read more »

Are you having doubts?

Married couple's hands

Doubts about getting married are fairly common. You may be worrying that you and your partner aren’t compatible enough. Perhaps there are parts of your relationship that don’t work so well – and you think they could become more of a problem further down the line. Maybe you’ve got the feeling there could be someone… Read more »

Blame can be toxic

When you’re on the receiving end of blame it can be exhausting, exasperating and painful. It can make you feel tiny: like nothing you do is good enough or ever will be. It can break down your sense of trust in your partner and replace it with a growing sense of resentment and anger. And,… Read more »