Posts Categorized: Compromise

Negotiating Difference

A lot has been written about why people fall in love.  It’s the first question I ask couples that come to see me.  Sometimes it’s simple: “We’re good friends and it felt right to move to the next stage”.  For some it’s a physical attraction or finding someone they can talk to about anything. For… Read more »

How things change: relationships under construction

I have a ‘postcard’ in my hallway that reads ‘The road to success is always under construction”.  I often tell my clients that applies to your relationship too. Most relationships start off lighthearted, full of joy and expectation.  We ‘fall in love’ for all sorts of reasons and with that person everything is possible: sharing… Read more »

How to argue less

Arguments are common in all kinds of relationships. Some degree of conflict can even be healthy, as it means both people are expressing themselves, rather than keeping everything inside and letting emotions fester. But if you’re arguing all the time, or simple disagreements end up in a hostile silence or screaming match, it can really… Read more »

Coping with the highs and lows of a rollercoaster relationship

When your relationship is an ‘emotional rollercoaster’, it tends to have lots of highs and lows – often in rapid succession. One day you’re arguing intensely, the next you’re feeling really happy and close. You may find it hard to predict what things are going to be like on any given day, or when they… Read more »

When sex isn’t working out ok

Feeling like you aren’t getting what you want in bed and being unable to ask for it can be frustrating and upsetting. Sex can be a really a tricky topic. We may feel we don’t know how to express ourselves to our partner. Or we may feel confused or embarrassed about why things aren’t ‘working’…. Read more »