Posts Categorized: Communication

Coping with the highs and lows of a rollercoaster relationship

When your relationship is an ‘emotional rollercoaster’, it tends to have lots of highs and lows – often in rapid succession. One day you’re arguing intensely, the next you’re feeling really happy and close. You may find it hard to predict what things are going to be like on any given day, or when they… Read more »

‘My partner isn’t committed to our relationship’

Feeling our partner has commitment issues can be stressful and isolating – and can make us doubt the future of our relationship. We may hope our partner will come round to the idea of a long-term relationship. We may believe, sometimes justifiably, that our partner wants to be committed to our relationship. But it never quite works… Read more »

When sex isn’t working out ok

Feeling like you aren’t getting what you want in bed and being unable to ask for it can be frustrating and upsetting. Sex can be a really a tricky topic. We may feel we don’t know how to express ourselves to our partner. Or we may feel confused or embarrassed about why things aren’t ‘working’…. Read more »

Loneliness: how we feel about it

Loneliness can be a frightening prospect, and one that can cause us to act in irrational ways. Staying in an unfulfilling relationship because you’re frightened of being alone is a relatively common situation, and one that many people come to individual counselling with for help. It can be tricky to address because the fear of… Read more »

Christmas tensions trigger huge rise in New Year calls

We’re expecting a peak in calls in the New Year after relationship tensions come to a head over the Christmas holidays. In January 2017, we received more than double the number of calls from local people compared with an average month – the total uplift was 108%. That figure was four times the uplift in… Read more »

Help for YOU if you’re in debt

One in seven people in debt has hidden the problem from their partner. And, according to latest figures from the Money Advice Service, 15.8% of adults (aged 18+) in the Bedford borough area and 14% of adults in Central Bedfordshire have a debt problem – that’s 51,630 people. In Luton, 18% of adults are in… Read more »