Posts Categorized: Communication

Tools for Transformation: Dave’s Counselling Journey

When Dave rang our support team, he felt it was his last chance.  He moved in with his partner four years ago. They were both divorced with grown-up children from their previous marriages.  As with many couples in this situation, from the outside they looked like a perfect pair. They loved having family gatherings with… Read more »

Top Tips for Christmas Mental Health

Magic family time together around the Christmas tree… Laughter, smiles and love… Christmas never quite lives up to our expectations, does it?! In fact, it’s one of the most challenging times of year for relationships. A recent poll by Relate National said 78% of people in the East Midlands expect Christmas to put pressure on… Read more »

Pandemic decreases self-esteem

Couple sitting together under dark clouds

Just over a quarter of people in the East Midlands report decrease in self-esteem compared with pre-pandemic levels. Just over a quarter (26%) of people living in the East Midlands say their self-esteem has decreased[i] compared with pre-pandemic levels. In contrast over a fifth (22%) say their self-esteem has increased[ii], which was also the same… Read more »

Strength Through Self-Care: A journey with Gill & Sara

strength through self-care

This series tells fictional stories of the counselling journey. Drawn from our counsellors’ extensive experience, this story recounts how a couple discovered the importance of self-care to maintain a strong relationship. Gill & Sara were happily married for a number of years.  Both career-driven, in jobs they loved and loved their life together.  They had… Read more »

How to Set Healthy Boundaries

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One thing Covid-19 has massively altered in our societies is boundaries and personal space. Over a year of social distancing outside our own bubbles has embedded social boundaries we would never have imagined before. What are healthy boundaries? Here’s some advice from Relate Northants counsellor Sharon. Sharon on Healthy Boundaries Our preferences around personal space… Read more »

Bridging the Gap: A journey with Tom & Mary

bridging the gap

This series tells fictional stories of the counselling journey. Drawn from our counsellors’ extensive experience, this story recounts how a couple overcome communication weaknesses to build a stronger future together. Pandemic Pressures Tom & Mary had been together 4 years when lockdown began and had been living together for two years in Tom’s house. They… Read more »

Skills for Life: A Journey with Joe

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This series tells fictional stories of the counselling journey. Drawn from our counsellors’ extensive experience, this story explores how a young teenager learns to name and handle complex emotions. At the Start 13-year-old Joe’s life, like that of many young teenagers, had been in significant turmoil since March. All of a sudden, half way through… Read more »

Reclaiming Time: A Journey with Mum & Sophia

mum and daughter in the car

This series tells fictional stories of the counselling journey. Drawn from our counsellors’ extensive experience, this story explores the use of mobile phones in our everyday. Initial meeting Laura came to Relate family counselling as she was worried about Sophia, her 15-year-old daughter. Constant arguments were making their relationship difficult and disrupting family life with… Read more »

Negotiating Difference

A lot has been written about why people fall in love.  It’s the first question I ask couples that come to see me.  Sometimes it’s simple: “We’re good friends and it felt right to move to the next stage”.  For some it’s a physical attraction or finding someone they can talk to about anything. For… Read more »