Posts Categorized: Communication

Pandemic decreases self-esteem

Couple sitting together under dark clouds

Just over a quarter of people in the East Midlands report decrease in self-esteem compared with pre-pandemic levels. Just over a quarter (26%) of people living in the East Midlands say their self-esteem has decreased[i] compared with pre-pandemic levels. In contrast over a fifth (22%) say their self-esteem has increased[ii], which was also the same… Read more »

Strength Through Self-Care: A journey with Gill & Sara

strength through self-care

This series tells fictional stories of the counselling journey. Drawn from our counsellors’ extensive experience, this story recounts how a couple discovered the importance of self-care to maintain a strong relationship. Gill & Sara were happily married for a number of years.  Both career-driven, in jobs they loved and loved their life together.  They had… Read more »

How to Set Healthy Boundaries

My boundaries diagram

One thing Covid-19 has massively altered in our societies is boundaries and personal space. Over a year of social distancing outside our own bubbles has embedded social boundaries we would never have imagined before. What are healthy boundaries? Here’s some advice from Relate Northants counsellor Sharon. Sharon on Healthy Boundaries Our preferences around personal space… Read more »

Bridging the Gap: A journey with Tom & Mary

bridging the gap

This series tells fictional stories of the counselling journey. Drawn from our counsellors’ extensive experience, this story recounts how a couple overcome communication weaknesses to build a stronger future together. Pandemic Pressures Tom & Mary had been together 4 years when lockdown began and had been living together for two years in Tom’s house. They… Read more »

Skills for Life: A Journey with Joe

child colouring pencils and paper

This series tells fictional stories of the counselling journey. Drawn from our counsellors’ extensive experience, this story explores how a young teenager learns to name and handle complex emotions. At the Start 13-year-old Joe’s life, like that of many young teenagers, had been in significant turmoil since March. All of a sudden, half way through… Read more »

Reclaiming Time: A Journey with Mum & Sophia

mum and daughter in the car

This series tells fictional stories of the counselling journey. Drawn from our counsellors’ extensive experience, this story explores the use of mobile phones in our everyday. Initial meeting Laura came to Relate family counselling as she was worried about Sophia, her 15-year-old daughter. Constant arguments were making their relationship difficult and disrupting family life with… Read more »

Negotiating Difference

A lot has been written about why people fall in love.  It’s the first question I ask couples that come to see me.  Sometimes it’s simple: “We’re good friends and it felt right to move to the next stage”.  For some it’s a physical attraction or finding someone they can talk to about anything. For… Read more »

How things change: relationships under construction

I have a postcard in my hallway that reads ‘The road to success is always under construction”.  I often tell my clients that applies to your relationship too. Most relationships start off light-hearted, full of joy and expectation.  We ‘fall in love’ for all sorts of reasons and with that person everything is possible: sharing… Read more »