Posts Categorized: Articles

Stopped having sex?

Pick your moment to talk There are all sorts of reasons people stop having sex – stress, illness, worry about performing, low libido, age, menopause and lack of body confidence. It’s easy to let your sex life drift, but bringing up the subject is difficult so try to pick the right moment when you’re both… Read more »

When it feels like the end of the world…

Discovered that your partner has cheated on you? It can feel like the end of the world. While some relationships never recover, other people find that they’re able to re-build trust. But how? Look after yourself If you’re still in crisis, now is not the time to decide whether you can save the relationship or… Read more »

What Counselling Is And What It Isn’t!

Many people come into counselling feeling nervous and uncertain of what to expect. More often than not people consider counselling when they have a problem and are feeling vulnerable and uncertain. Counselling isn’t only useful in times of crisis, it can be a way exploring different ways of dealing with the world, or managing new… Read more »

I have trouble starting relationships

It can be frustrating and worrying being unable to make new relationships stick. You might find that you keep starting something, only to find that it falters after a few weeks or months. Or you may have trouble meeting anyone at all. The first thing to say is perhaps there isn’t a problem at all…. Read more »

What are you waiting for?

The stigma of meeting someone online – whether by app or dating website – has almost disappeared. In fact, one in five relationships now begins online. Tinder alone is said to match 26 million people a day. But if you’re still unsure whether online dating is right for you, here’s why you might take the… Read more »

Summer not so loving?

Counsellors at Relate Bedfordshire and Luton are preparing themselves for an anticipated spike in calls this September in the immediate post-holiday period in line with national trends. Relate saw a nine per cent increase in calls last year and is ready for a similar onslaught this year. Relate Bedfordshire and Luton wants couples to be… Read more »

The art of listening

We tend to think of communication as just being about expressing ourselves, but that’s really only half of it. It’s also just as important to know how to listen. Being able to listen to your partner effectively means you’re able to better understand their perspective. It means you’re more likely to have constructive conversations where… Read more »

Pornography: how it shapes our relationships

Internet pornography is a wide-reaching technology, growing at a breathtaking rate. It is a USD 13 billion-a-year industry in the US. Nine out of 10 boys in America are exposed to it before the age of 18. Men are 543% more likely to be users than women. By 2017, over a quarter of a billion… Read more »