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Forgiving: one of the hardest things to do in a relationship

Forgiving your partner if they’ve done something to upset you can be one of the hardest things to do in a relationship. When you’re feeling disappointed, angry or betrayed, the idea of forgiving someone can feel a bit like giving in – as if, by letting go of your resentment, you’re allowing them to ‘get… Read more »

Trust: the bedrock for a relationship

Being able to trust your partner is one of the most important parts of a relationship. Trust is the foundation from which a strong connection can be built. Without it, it can be hard for relationships to grow and progress to a deeper level. Building trust is something that happens for different couples at different… Read more »

Be brave in your relationship

We all do it – in our relationships we say things we wished we’d kept to ourselves. Sometimes the things we say we don’t really mean. Other times in a rash moment we express inner feelings that we’re not ready to discuss, or we’ve kept from our partner because we know they will hurt. Researchers… Read more »

Menopause: doesn’t have to be taboo

Menopause remains a taboo subject for some women and their partners. Some men feel that the menopause is ‘women’s business’ and there is no need for them to be informed or involved. Yet the menopause can have a profound impact on a couple’s relationship. For some women, the menopause brings with it a sense of… Read more »

Practice makes perfect?

It can be easy to assume that your second marriage will be easier than the first. After all, practice makes perfect, doesn’t it? While this may be true in lots of ways, remarrying can come with its own complications and concerns. Reliving the past One of the risks in any new or new-ish relationship is… Read more »

Trial separations — do they work?

Sometimes, when it feels like you’ve exhausted all of your options and aren’t sure where to turn, the best thing can be to take a step back and get a little perspective. In relationships, it’s at times like this that we might suggest a couple try a trial separation. People have lots of ideas about… Read more »

Tips on how to ‘keep the peace’ this Christmas

We’re preparing for a peak in calls this New Year as relationship tensions between families and couples come to a head over the festive period. Relate received a 39% increase in calls in January 2016 – a trend expected to continue. So… here are our tips for helping to ‘keep the peace’ this Christmas:

Affairs at work

It may be a cliché, but the workplace is one of the most common places for affairs to start. How do work affairs start? When people spend lots of time together, they have the chance to really get to know each other. Work affairs often start off slowly. Working together in stressful situations can mean… Read more »

Why do people cheat?

When someone’s cheated on by their partner, they’re often left asking: why? How could someone they trusted and loved — and who they thought loved them back — betray them in such a shocking and hurtful way? There’s usually not only a sense of anger and upset, but also total disbelief. The reasons people cheat… Read more »

Are three a crowd?

For most couples, seeing their partner have sex with someone else would spell disaster for their future together. But not for everyone… Getting sexual pleasure from watching your partner sleep with someone else is said to be gaining in popularity. According to The Independent, relevant online searches have more than doubled on Google in the past 12 years…. Read more »