Posts By: Gemma Curran

Tools for Transformation: Dave’s Counselling Journey

When Dave rang our support team, he felt it was his last chance.  He moved in with his partner four years ago. They were both divorced with grown-up children from their previous marriages.  As with many couples in this situation, from the outside they looked like a perfect pair. They loved having family gatherings with… Read more »

Top Tips for Christmas Mental Health

Magic family time together around the Christmas tree… Laughter, smiles and love… Christmas never quite lives up to our expectations, does it?! In fact, it’s one of the most challenging times of year for relationships. A recent poll by Relate National said 78% of people in the East Midlands expect Christmas to put pressure on… Read more »

Learning to Listen: Stina’s Counselling Journey

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  This series tells fictional stories of the counselling journey. Drawn from our counsellors’ extensive experience, this story recounts how a young teenager discovers better connection and mental health through learning to listen. 15-year-old Stina was a chatty, smiley teenager with many friends. Her friendships could sometimes be volatile, but after arguments were quickly restored…. Read more »

A Series of Small Steps: Jon’s Counselling Journey

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This series tells fictional stories of the counselling journey. Drawn from our counsellors’ extensive experience, this story recounts how a man overcomes his mental health challenges through counselling and begins to rebuild his relationship with his family. Jon was not sure at all about coming to counselling. His colleague from work recommended it to him… Read more »

Out of the shell: A journey with Aly

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This series tells fictional stories of the counselling journey. Drawn from our counsellors’ extensive experience, this story recounts how a young teenager builds her self-esteem and confidence as she explores her gender identity. Aly’s parents contacted Relate after months of growing concern about their 14-year-old daughter. Over the last six months, she’d slowly retreated. Their… Read more »

Pandemic decreases self-esteem

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Just over a quarter of people in the East Midlands report decrease in self-esteem compared with pre-pandemic levels. Just over a quarter (26%) of people living in the East Midlands say their self-esteem has decreased[i] compared with pre-pandemic levels. In contrast over a fifth (22%) say their self-esteem has increased[ii], which was also the same… Read more »

Strength Through Self-Care: A journey with Gill & Sara

strength through self-care

This series tells fictional stories of the counselling journey. Drawn from our counsellors’ extensive experience, this story recounts how a couple discovered the importance of self-care to maintain a strong relationship. Gill & Sara were happily married for a number of years.  Both career-driven, in jobs they loved and loved their life together.  They had… Read more »

How to Set Healthy Boundaries

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One thing Covid-19 has massively altered in our societies is boundaries and personal space. Over a year of social distancing outside our own bubbles has embedded social boundaries we would never have imagined before. What are healthy boundaries? Here’s some advice from Relate Northants counsellor Sharon. Sharon on Healthy Boundaries Our preferences around personal space… Read more »