You’ve decided to put an end to all the arguing, all the tension, all the indecision – and tell your partner: ‘It’s over.’ All you’ve got to do is actually do it! It sounds straightforward enough. But it’s not always easy. Maybe you’re worried about hurting your partner. Perhaps you know they don’t want to break… Read more »
Posts By: Chris
Effects of your arguments on children
Many of us will remember what it was like to listen to our parents arguing. The feelings of helplessness, panic and sadness. A desire to block it out or run away. Yet it can be easy to forget this as a parent later in life. We can get so mixed up in arguments with our… Read more »
Why do my children argue so much?
Arguments between children can be upsetting for a parent. You may worry about your relationship with your children – especially if the arguments have been going on regularly for a while. You may feel a responsibility to stop the arguing, or may be upset that the arguments are causing disharmony in your family. While some… Read more »
When a new baby isn’t entirely that bundle of joy you’d expected
We’re sometimes reluctant to talk about what it’s really like to bring a new baby into a family – apart from the acceptance that we’re likely to get a lot less sleep. Expectations run high and anything that contradicts them can be difficult to process. As a new parent, you’re letting go of one life… Read more »
‘Children learn positive lessons when parents explain how they resolve arguments’
Most parents argue. But the way these disagreements affect children varies greatly, according to research commissioned by the BBC. It’s not only the relationship between parent and child that affects children’s long-term development. How parents get on with each other also plays a big role in a child’s wellbeing, with the potential to affect everything… Read more »
Blame can be toxic
When you’re on the receiving end of blame it can be exhausting, exasperating and painful. It can make you feel tiny: like nothing you do is good enough or ever will be. It can break down your sense of trust in your partner and replace it with a growing sense of resentment and anger. And,… Read more »
That’s not cheating – or is it?
‘Micro-cheating’ – said to be a new buzzword – is all about little things you might think aren’t that naughty, but could turn out to be. Is there such a thing – ‘cheating but only a bit’? Yes, says Dr Martin Graff, professor of psychology at the University of South Wales, who wrote about this… Read more »
Forgiveness: it’s the hardest thing to do
Forgiving your partner if they’ve done something to upset you can be one of the hardest things to do in a relationship. When you’re feeling disappointed, angry or betrayed, the idea of forgiving someone can feel a little bit like giving in – as if, by letting go of your resentment, you’re allowing them to… Read more »
How to argue less
Arguments are common in all kinds of relationships. Some degree of conflict can even be healthy, as it means both people are expressing themselves, rather than keeping everything inside and letting emotions fester. But if you’re arguing all the time, or simple disagreements end up in a hostile silence or screaming match, it can really… Read more »
Coping with the ‘snowball of stress’
Stress can have a distorting effect on our relationships. It can make us feel low and not wanting to talk to people. We tend to shut ourselves away and keep our emotions on the inside. It can make us argumentative and prone to lashing out – ready to lose our temper in an instant. Or,… Read more »